His Three Daughters (2023)

This is a bit of a departure from my usual solo travel work movie watching fare--it is a serious movie about a serious--and universal00life experience of having a parent die. True, some dodge it, but that is usually a tragedy of a different sort. The movie opens in a New York City apartment where we meet we meet Katie (Carrie Coon), Christina (Elizabeth Olsen) and Rachel (Natasha Lyonne). The scene is painful to watch and yet as the movie rolls out over the next hour and a half, it also is a scene that doesn’t really capture who they are. Yes, they are sisters and daughters (and two are mothers). But in the days leading up to their father’s death, they’re reminded of the complexity of human emotion, behavior, and understanding. There is a lot that the daughters do not agree upon, and are left to grapple with as their father dwindles away, and it is a microcosm of the things that happen all too often for families that leave a lot unsaid and for whom there are misunderstandings, resentments, tensions, piled on top of the challenges of everyday life. When you don't communicate, you don't communicate and grappling with death does not make it any better. The script is pitch perfect, and while it was painful to watch, it felt very real. Grief tears down what we think of ourselves. It’s cruel. It’s harsh. It’s inevitable. It shatters the walls we put up around our personalities that so often reduce us to easy descriptions like sister, daughter, and mother, and none of that helps to get through to the place you need to get to move on.